Sexual appeasement is overblown

“I have a small penis”, Edmund White announces as he introduces his sex memoir, Loves of my Life. But this shortcoming, as the self-styled paterfamilias of queer literature reminds the reader again and again, has not prevented him from racking …

Beware the impurity spiral

Doomscrolling through the timeline this week, my eye was caught by an arresting headline. “I WAS A PASTOR. NOW I MAKE BANK ON ONLYFANS AND HAVE NEVER FELT MORE FULFILLED” it blared. Clicking despite myself, I found the story of …

The trouble with online safetyism

Epileptics being maliciously exposed to flashing images. Children being bullied via social media. Adults being misled by material about medical interventions. Since it was conceived by academics in 2018, the Online Safety Bill — which returns to Parliament this week …

The death of intimacy

The sexual entrepreneur keeps a spreadsheet of every encounter she’s ever had. It’s populated with all kinds of information: how much they talked, the different positions they tried, whether it was the first or second or fifth time, and, of …